Unless you've been living under a rock, I'm sure by know you've at least heard of the "awesome" lip dub proposal that went viral on YouTube. It's pretty cheesy; you can watch it here if you don't know what I'm talking about.
While the idea is cute, and I love musicals, with all their happy singing and dancing, as much as the next girl, I would have told this guy NO. No, Isaac, I don't want to marry you. And you have Bruno Mars and his crappy lyrics to thank for that.
This song irks me, which is kinda sad because I generally love the music of Bruno Mars and his vocal style. If you really listen to the lyrics of this song, however, it's about being so drunk that you want to run off to some drive-thru chapel and get married on a whim. And the fact that this is an acceptable thing to sing about on the radio gives a bit of insight why the divorce rate in our country is so high.
The second line of the song goes, "We're looking for something dumb to do." I've done a lot of dumb things in my life, but getting married is not on that list. And it shouldn't be on anyone's dumb list, if they actually hold their vows sacred.
Maybe it's because I got married in the Catholic Church, which I think does an excellent job of teaching the importance of each sacrament, marriage included, that running off to a "chapel on the Boulevard" after drinking some "dancing juice" doesn't appeal to me. Actually, the wedding coordinator at the church informed me that intoxication can invalidate the sacrament. Instead of 'pre-gaming' to settle my nerves, I had a Subway sandwich. It wasn't too hard to save the drinking for the reception afterward. I was also informed that the Catholic Church suggests and engagement spanning between six months and two years. Granted, I know of at least one couple that got a priest's blessing to make it sooner (oh, military life), but I think these guidelines are good. Six months gives you enough time to see if you're making a mistake (and to take the premarital class required by the Church), and my best guess is if it takes you more than two years, then you're focusing on the wrong things.
The one line that probably bugs me the most is, "If we wake up and you wanna break up, that's cool." Why in the hell would that be in the song you use to propose to your girlfriend?? I'm sure at least one person involved in that lipdub/flashmob charade had the exact same thought running through his or her head. How could they not? I'm pretty sure Isaac was hoping for a lifetime commitment here, not a one night stand.
Maybe I'm overthinking this, but if I were the one proposing, I would think this thing completely through. And completely through obviously includes the lyrics of the song. I mean, they're kind of important, right? I don't care how catchy the freakin' beat is, do people actually listen to lyrics any more? Or maybe everyone has stopped listening to the verses and only hears the refrain? I don't know, but I hear it all, and all is not well.
just don’t say it: let’s be Friends!
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